The Definition of healing is really important. And yet, I don’t think many people have stopped to consider that the definition actually contains the cure to ill health.

Several years ago, I was writing a blog and I was talking about healing and health and just out of curiosity and wanting to be accurate about what I was writing about, I thought, ” I wonder what the dictionary definition of healing is?”

So I Googled it, and I almost fell off my chair! 

I mean, I KNOW what the secret to healing is (after years of intense personal, professional and spiritual investigation!) but I certainly wasn’t expecting it to be in the blooming dictionary! 

I could have saved years of research if I’d just looked in a blooming everyday run of the mill dictionary!

heal (v.)

Old English hælan “cure; save; make whole, sound and well,” from Proto-Germanic *hailjan (source also of Old Saxon helian, Old Norse heila, Old Frisian hela, Dutch helen, German heilen, Gothic ga-hailjan “to heal, cure”), literally “to make whole,” from PIE *kailo- “whole” (see health). Intransitive sense from late 14c. Related: Healed; healing.

(bold emphasis added by Sharon)

I felt a mix of emotions in that moment:  amazement, shock, happiness, anger, confusion and much more! 

You see, if the cure to all illness is included within the word itself… WHAT THE HELL HAVE WE ALL BEEN DOING?!

And specifically, what the hell is medicine still doing?

When you realise that to heal means to make whole, surely the first question you ask must be,

“So if I am ill, what would make me whole?”

Which begs the obvious next  question, where in traditional medicine is this question EVER asked or even considered?

I’m not talking about emergency care. There is a very strong argument for keeping you alive through traditional life-saving methods so that you are alive long enough to ask this question! But once your life is not in danger, then I personally believe that this really important question should be addressed.

As you might know already, I am fascinated by the Placebo Effect.

The definition of the placebo effect is “a beneficial effect produced by a placebo drug or treatment, which cannot be attributed to the properties of the placebo itself, and must therefore be due to the patient’s belief in that treatment.”

Belief in a treatment causes you to heal – nothing else. (A belief is just a reinforced thought).

How can you not be fascinated by that?! 

So in a placebo – the patient and usually the study team do not know who has received the trest drug or procedure and who received the placebo. So for all intent purposes, the patient believes that they could be taking a genuine drug/ receiving surgery – whereas in fact they are not receiving anything but a sugar pill or given the impression of surgery when really they had no procedure except for an incision.

Even if a patient is told that they are being given a placebo, if the person administering the placebo is kind and attentive, patients improve…. 

You see, I don’t believe that we heal from chemicals – I believe that when we go see an “expert” we feel soothed – we feel seen, heard and even if we don’t have a particularly nice “expert ” they still  “care” enough to give us a prescription for something that might make us feel better.  Sometimes a doctor’s appointment gives us just a short break from our overly busy lives. Sometimes a doctor’s appointment gives us an opportunity to alleviate our worst fears. Sometimes a doctors appointment gives us a “good reason” to avoid things we find unpleasant. Sometimes a doctors appointment gives us an excuse to get love and attention from those close to us who previously took us for granted. 

No. I don’t believe that we get ill by random accident. We don’t get ill, because of our genes (that’s even scientifically proven now). We don’t get ill because of any other reason except from our perception of lack of wholeness; which can be healed through self-love and self-acceptance.

To energetically whole and perfect beings, the feeling of not being whole is devastating (much more devastating than people realise). It’s what makes us morbidly stressed. (Yes, I just coined that. You heard it here first).

The truth is that we are whole – no one or nothing can take anything from you. You came in well equipped for life and you’re still well equipped. But early on in life, we perceive a loss. We believe something is missing from us. We go searching for it – in another person, a job, a pay-check, a lottery ticket, a much-liked selfie… we search and search and whenever we don’t find it – the lie of our un-wholeness deepens. It stresses the body. The mind and body don’t know what to do with this lie. So it compartmentalises it and holds it until it can figure out what to do with this feeling. For many people it is held most of their whole life unnoticed, and then as they age and children move away, relationships fall apart, spouses die, retirement comes etc  the most recent loss triggers the memory of that original hidden feeling of loss.

As the feeling of lack of wholeness resurfaces, it wants to be healed – it doesn’t want to be a missing piece. It wants to be embraced by the whole. It wants resolution, so it pops up in the body as illness. And instead of embracing this as an opportunity to look at the subject of our wholeness, we cut the disease out of our bodies, we poison it, we radiate it, we ingest stuff, we do everything BUT address it. 

We are so scared of the feeling of less-than-whole that we will literally do anything but face it.

And yet, facing this perceived less-than-wholeness is such a gentle, loving thing to do compared to everything else we try! 

If we could just acknowledge that to heal means to make whole then maybe, we might notice that we have been whole all along. We have never been lacking anything. 

 Sure, we’re imperfect. 

But perfect doesn’t equal whole and imperfect doesn’t equal un-wholeness.

If we could embrace our own imperfection, maybe we could embrace others imperfections. If we love ourselves despite our imperfections, maybe we could love others in their imperfection too. If we forgive ourselves for our imperfections, maybe we could forgive others theirs.

What if we’re all imperfect? But that imperfection doesn’t mean we’re not whole?

What if wholeness was just who we are and our imperfections sit perfectly within our wholeness?

What if we could feel whole and imperfect at the same time?

What if we could love our wholeness and imperfection with the same ferocity as we love others? 

What if before we could unconditionally love anyone else we had to first unconditionally love ourselves?

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Does this seem hard to you? If it does, I don’t blame you…

Because we as a society seem unable to acknowledge this truth about healing (even when it’s implicit in the word). Is this solution too abstract for people to grasp? Even if it is, I question whether it is really easier to spend decades and decades studying the inner workings of every minuscule part of the body, spending trillions of £££s/ $$$$s on healthcare and millions on people taking drugs with side-effects and addiction possibilities instead of just looking inwards and asking ourselves honestly what is really hurting us?

 But, I do accept that the resources to help you with answering the question of what is really hurting you, is marginalised, scattered across spiritual teachings and pretty hard to find.

It doesn’t help that capitalism is built on you believing you are missing something and that status, money, products or services can fix that feeling. Capitalist economies thrive when people BUY solutions to their perceived lack. Think about it, why do you buy anything? Because you don’t have it, and you perceive that your life will be “better” when you have it. Only to buy it, and the feeling is still there, so you buy another thing and another and another. But the feeling can’t be healed by buying stuff, by a job promotion, by a bigger house, by bigger savings etc. It can’t, it can’t be bought, it can only be faced.

If you knew your wholeness, the system fears that no-one would “strive” for anything and the economy would collapse. So society doesn’t have an interest in healing you. Governments don’t have an interest in healing you (except so that you can go out to work to contribute to the economy), pharmaceutical  businesses don’t have an interest in healing you, because if their products worked, then you wouldn’t need to keep coming back. One-off cures, don’t provide long-term income, but if you have to take a drug for the rest of your life… now that’s good business!

If you truly want to heal, you need to take matters in your own hands. You need to be the most interested and committed person to your healing. You have to face your perceived lack of wholeness square in the eye and say,

“I’m ready Wholeness… what’s the truth?”

And your wholeness will lovingly take you in it’s arms and say, “Darling, why have you hurt yourself so much? I love you. You and I have never been apart. No need for this pain and suffering anymore, you don’t deserve this suffering. Come, let’s walk through the rest of life together hand in hand.. Let’s enjoy this life together. Say goodbye to suffering. Wholeness cannot be separated, you know that… Now let’s have some fun!”



If you would like more help with recognising your wholeness, Sharon’s techniques all have this at their core.

You may want to download her Healing Meditation” Mp3 the full title of this meditation is “Healing and Wholeness Meditation”.

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